He seems distant after we got intimate

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My boyfriend and I recently had sex after dating for three months. It was nice, but he has been behaving a little strangely with me since then. I am not sure if I did something wrong or offended him by saying something, but he isn't telling me what the problem is. He has begun spending less time with me as well and I am starting to feel as if he has begun losing interest in me now that we have been physically intimate. This makes me feel horrible because I am a good judge of character and don't think he is that kind of person. I want to ask him a direct question about it but am also afraid it may backfire because he may accuse me of misunderstanding this whole thing and make things worse. How do I sort this out?
You should ask him a direct question even if you think he will misunderstand you because the only way your relationship can evolve, or be saved, is by the two of you being honest with each other. There may be awkwardness after sex, which isn't as surprising as you might think, but you have a right to know what he thinks. You shouldn't have to apologise for how you feel even if it makes him look bad, because it is up to him to explain his actions. The only way to counter this is to be open and confront any difficult questions. Insist on meeting him until you are comfortable with his explanation. At the very least, it may compel him to tell you what's wrong and if what you think about him is accurate.

I want to end a relationship with someone because I have fallen in love with someone else, but I don't know if this other person feels the same way about me. Am I making a terrible mistake?
This first depends upon how you feel about your current partner, and if you are okay with them not being part of your life.

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