Am with him only for convenient reasons

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I am a 24-year old and have been dating a guy who only wants to be with me because he thinks I am pretty. He invites me to parties so his friends can see that he is dating a good-looking woman. In private, he barely has a conversation with me about who I am or what I'm like. I know I should end this because it doesn't do anything positive for me, but I like being with him for other reasons. It makes me feel secure because he has a future mapped out for him. He is going to be successful because his parents are well-off. I know I may lose out on something genuine, but I am also thinking about my own future. Is this the right way to do it? Am I being unfair to myself?
You're an adult and more than capable of making decisions about your life. You aren't committing to marrying this person, so thinking about the future seems premature at this point. There will come a time when your priorities may shift, and meeting someone who makes you feel differently may play a role in that happening. Our wants and expectations evolve as we do, and what you think is important today may simply not be of any value a year from now. The best thing you can do is make a decision based upon how much you value yourself as an individual. Think about the importance of respect, happiness, and love, and then go with that.

Should I end a relationship because my boyfriend isn't earning as much as I do? He says it's not a big deal, but I know he is very insecure about this, and it affects every aspect of our lives. He isn't even accepting that there is a problem.
Financial issues can cause significant harm to any relationship if this isn't dragged out into the open and analysed as openly and honestly as possible. If he won't acknowledge it, you won't be able to fix it.

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