I am tired of saying anything that can be misunderstood and am beginning to wonder if this relationship isn’t for me
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My girlfriend and I recently got into an argument about what she was wearing. I didn’t ask her to change, nor did I say I had a problem with it, but simply mentioned that she doesn’t always dress appropriately for occasions. We were going to a formal event, and she chose to wear something casual, which is all I said. This made her accuse me of trying to control her life, which is completely untrue. She wants to be independent, and I support that idea too, but she sometimes takes things too seriously and this always leads to fights that go on for days. I am tired of saying anything that can be misunderstood and am beginning to wonder if this relationship isn’t for me. Am I being too sensitive?
This is difficult to gauge because you and your girlfriend alone can comment on whether you don’t see eye to eye on a lot of things. If she wants to wear something and believes you don’t have a right to comment, you have to respect her wishes. If you believe she overreacts and is prone to misunderstanding, it’s a sign that you both need to work on your communication skills. As for whether this relationship isn’t working, you should try speaking to her about how she sees it and what she thinks the future holds for you both. If she feels the same way, the sooner you both have that conversation, the better.
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