He keeps trying to make me jealous!

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My boyfriend has a nasty habit of always talking about pretty women he meets, only to make me jealous. I have explained time and again that I am not possessive and that I don't care if he meets women or not, but there is some kind of insecurity in him that makes it impossible for him to avoid the topic. We love each other a lot and have been serious about our relationship for a while, which is why this doesn't make sense to me. He knows I trust him and that he won't cheat on me, so I don't get why he needs to mention other women just to get me to react in some way. Is this something I should worry about at all, or should I just wait until he grows up and stops being immature?
There is certainly some immaturity on display here, along with some insecurities that have clearly not been addressed or resolved. It's not something that should keep you up at night, although you should keep calling it out until the message gets through to him. Keep asking him why he feels the need to talk about other women, until you can both get to a place of honesty. This may take a while given that he hasn't been able to acknowledge that the problem exists, but it is still something you should pursue. Waiting until he grows up is fine, but also unfair because the onus on being patient will continue to be on you. This may or may not lead to some resentment but, as long as you are prepared for that possibility, it may be the best thing to do. It sometimes takes two people time to match what they expect from the other. This hasn't happened in your relationship yet. On a positive note, you are both committed to a future together, which means you will both put in the work. It doesn't seem as if this is a serious issue that can derail anything going forward.

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