If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, talks like a duck, could it possibly be a… bag? As absurd as it may seem, this train of thought may sound a little more coherent if you’re a fashion lover who has been recently confronted with a seemingly endless barrage of statements, or ‘It’ bags on reality television and social media. Shalini Passi carries a duck-shaped bag And, for that, we have none other than art collector Shalini Passi (of Netflix’s Fabulous Lives vs Bollywood Wives fame) and designer brands, including one Italian name that debuted a hyper-realistic, oversized clutch that resembles actual celery stalks, to blame. Passi, on the other hand, boasts an extensive collection of statement clutches, which range in inspiration from a sparkling alien head to a vintage brick phone to a miniature harp. Statement bags have minimal utility If you’re eager to trade in your trusted tote for one of these glittering, sculpted extravagances, the two biggest questions you’ll be posed with are: what can you fit into one of these clutches, and how do you style them? Answering the first of these dilemmas, celebrity stylist Mitali Ambekar says, “An ‘It’ bag is not big on functionality. Such bags are designed to make a statement, and practicality is often relegated to a secondary status. They’re intended to be quirky accessories that can be used to add visual interest to an otherwise predictable look,” she clarifies. Mitali Ambekar The ‘It’ factor To make an It bag the star of your look, experiment with unique shapes and sizes, Ambekar advises. Depending on the occasion, the time of day, or the aesthetic you’re going for, you can take your pick of a mini bag, a hyper-realistic style, colour-blocked design or a diamond encrusted piece. Ambekar suggests keeping a few style basic guidelines in mind: Safa Siddiqui flaunts a quirky dollar bag >> Pair bold shapes with neutral or monochrome outfits in contrasting tones, to make the bag pop. For example, an all-white outfit, a slip dress, or a silk shirt with pants and stiletto heels make a good canvas for almost any statement bag. >> Play with textures by combining glossy bags with matte or textured fabrics, such as tweed and linen. A patent leather bag, for instance, looks great against a woollen coat. >> Colour-blocking is an effective way to make the bag shine. Pair vibrant bags with complementary hues. For instance, pair a cobalt blue bag with an orange outfit. Textured metallic bags add the perfect bling to a party ensemble >> Printed or hyper-realistic bags can instantly elevate solid or monotone outfits. Try and contrast the tones of the clothing to the tones of the bag. The viral lime green celery bag would look great against a lavender outfit. >> Balance shapes by pairing structured bags with relaxed outfits and quirky designs with fitted silhouettes. A flowy A-line skirt with an organza pussy-bow blouse can be styled with a structured geometric bag, to add acontrast against the flowy clothing. >> To highlight a cross-body or belt-style bag; wear it with statement sleeves or a cropped top. >> Keep proportions in mind while styling; smaller bags complement petite frames and oversized designs suit taller figures.
27 November,2024 08:53 AM IST | Mumbai | Anindita PaulThey say the best way to learn something is by getting involved with it and nothing better than an experiential museum to teach the young minds of this generation about the creatures of the prehistoric era. The Museum of Solutions, in collaboration with Get Set Learn, an educational consultancy platform, is bringing an immersive experience called Dinosaurs Among Us, to India. It is an exhibition about palaeontology, conceptualised by the American Museum of Natural History. Tanvi Jindal Shete From role-playing as dinosaurs, to tracing fossil impressions, the exhibition has a host of activities planned for children. But why palaeontology, we ask? “Learning about palaeontology is important because it sparks curiosity in children and helps them to understand the world in a deeper way. By studying dinosaurs and their evolution, they not only learn about prehistoric life but also grasp fundamental scientific concepts of evolution, adaptation, and extinction. These kinds of immersive experiences allow children to engage with complex concepts engagingly and memorably,” Tanvi Jindal Shete, founder of Museum of Solutions, tells us. The fossil sandpit at the museum The exhibition is designed to offer an interactive experience to children, pulling them into the world of palaeontology to understand the evolutionary link between dinosaurs and birds. “We have a fossil excavation sandpit where children can use real tools to piece together a jigsaw puzzle of the excavated skeletons. There’s also an activity where they will be encouraged to trace fossil impressions of these prehistoric creatures and take them home,” Shete reveals. Children excavate mock bones This edition of Dinosaurs among us has been curated by Dr Akinobu Watanabe, research associate at the American Museum of Natural History and assistant professor of anatomy at New York Institute of Technology. By blending learning with interactive activities, the boundaries of knowledge are made more porous for young minds, making it an indelible personal experience for them, “We hope to inspire children to explore, question, and ultimately contribute to a more sustainable and equitable future” Ameet Zaveri, co-founder of Get Set Learn, explains. The exhibition is open to visitors of all ages while the activities are targeted for children from three years and above. A kid assembles a dinosaur fromexcavated puzzle pieces TILL January 31TIME 10 am to 6 pm (Tuesday to Friday), 10 am to 7 pm (Saturday and Sunday)AT Museum of Solutions, Victoria House, Lower Parel.LOG ON TO bookmyshow.comENTRY Rs 399
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26 November,2024 10:03 AM IST | Mumbai | Kanisha SoftaIf you catch the bubbly, chatty Australian theatremaker Benjamin Knapton art gallery-hopping or savouring a bowl of his favourite dal makhani in the lanes of Bandra this week, you couldn’t possibly guess that he’s in the city to orchestrate a daring artistic endeavour. Inspired by a 2017 visit to the Mallakhamb India school in Santacruz and a trip to the home of kalaripayattu in Kerala later, Knapton will debut his new production Warriors — a theatrical relook at the two traditions — at the Royal Opera House Mumbai, in collaboration with the Australian Consulate General, The Centre of Australia-India Relations, and Avid Learning, this weekend. The Mallakhamb India troupe at a previous performance The idea, Knapton tells us, is to open the audience’s eyes to the artistic expression and emotional undertones of the martial arts that are often overlooked amid the physical spectacle. The audience is not the only one in for a surprise. “I was both excited and curious when I first heard about the idea,” admits mallakhamb artiste Atharva Angre, adding, “Mallakhamb is already an incredibly dynamic and visually captivating sport. This was the right opportunity to present mallakhamb in a fresh avatar while staying true to its traditional roots.” A mallakhamb artiste showcases his flexibility and core strength While it’s not the first uphill climb for Knapton, who presented a simpler version of contemporary mallakhamb in the city in 2019, the inclusion of the CVN Kalari Sangham artistes ought to add a layer of challenge. The director has just locked in the final structure of the 90-minute show before we catch him over a call. He gives us a peek, “The show begins with artistes from both art forms showcasing their skills on stage together — much like a collage of traditions. My favourite part, though, is a semi-improvised jugalbandi between a mallakhamb and a kalaripayattu artiste that plays almost like two jazz musicians riffing off each other’s lines. It will be a first for both the audience and the performers,” he reveals. Donn Bhat City-based music producer Donn Bhat, who shoulders responsibility to lay out the soundscape to this novel production, admits that it’s not every day that you make music for a martial arts performance. “Being a theatremaker, Ben [Benjamin] usually throws musical ideas at me in terms of words and emotions. To understand what his vision is, and to bring it to life has been a fun experiment,” he laughs. Angre chimes in agreement to the novelty of the challenge, “Synchronising our movements with live music requires us to adjust our routines, timing, and focus. It was undoubtedly more challenging than usual, but equally rewarding,” he adds. Benjamin Knapton Angre and his troupe might find some semblance of familiarity amidst all the newness, though. “We are using ambient sounds from the troupe’s home turf in Santacruz. Sounds of airplanes flying past, waves crashing and other chatter from the area are all part of the composition,” Bhat reveals, adding that the duo is still toying with South Indian sounds like the konnakol leading up to the premiere. Atharva Angre What has kept an Australian theatremaker, a Mumbaikar obsessed with experimental music, and traditional artistes from two ends of the western coast together through four months of gruelling planning and trial and error, we wonder. It’s the shared aim to take the indigenous arts to the global stage, they agree unanimously. “We performed a show at the Sziget festival in Budapest with the mallakhamb boys, right before the COVID-19 lockdown. The audience there spent an hour after the performance talking to the performers about the intricacies of the art form. We have seen the intrigue these art forms can spark in audiences from all walks of life. If the premiere is received well, we might just set out on a world tour with it,” Knapton signs off. On: November 30; 7 pm At: Royal Opera House Mumbai, Girgaon.Log on to: insider.inEntry: Rs 499 onwards
26 November,2024 09:39 AM IST | Mumbai | Devashish KambleAmitabh Bachchan ke ghar ke saamne,” comes the answer; quite like a direction given to an autorickshaw driver in Juhu. The question that this writer posed was whether composer-flautist Guillaume Barraud had been to Mumbai before. The Paris-based Barraud is amused. Having lived in the city for five years in the early noughties, the 46-year-old certainly knows his way around town. Even as he is speaking with this writer over the phone, Barraud is preparing for his next concert in Kochi. This is part of a India tour for the composer and his quartet — Tam de Villiers (guitarist), Guillaume Ruelland (bassist) and Maxime Zampieri (drums). “It is good to be back,” he admits. Hariprasad Chaurasia. PIC COURTESY/WIKIMEDIA COMMONS The country has changed a lot since Barraud first visited it in 1999. “I was already into yoga and meditation in Paris. It exposed me to the sound of the flute,” he recalls. A guitarist by training, Barraud found the flute, more specifically the bansuri, more suitable for his expression. “I was moved so much, and transported by the hypnotic sound. It is like you sing into the flute. All your emotions move through your breath,” he remarks. Having heard the sounds of Shakti and The Mahavishnu Orchestra, as well as the influence of Hindustani music on Miles Davis and John Coltrane, he was curious. Barraud (left) in performance with Prabhu Edouard in Geneva It so happened that the visit to India proved to be the beginning of an adventure. Barraud learned the bansuri through one of its greatest exponents, Pandit Hariprasad Chaurasia. Their meeting was a matter of pure chance, he admits. “I was travelling through Gujarat, and had bought my first bansuri. I was practicing at a hotel one morning when someone knocked on the door. A student of Panditji, and I started talking about the bansuri. Soon, we were friends. When I visited Mumbai to meet him, he introduced me to Panditji.” Barraud collaborates with composer Frank Strobel and the Tonhalle Orchestra This is when Juhu became the place to be for Barraud between 2001 and 2008. “Panditji’s school was also close by, and we had a band that would perform across the city,” he shares. The five years of learning would inform his approach towards composition and music. He shares, “All composition emerges from the mode, or the raga, as we say. For instance, with my first work, I was focussing on Gurjari Todi. I was playing the guitar on that particular scale, and was able to develop harmonic changes and progressions to find a narrative.” The need to tell a story or have a conversation through music is one of the lessons handed down during his schooling with Pandit Hariprasad Chaurasia. Describing Panditji’s class, Barraud recalls, “For him, the class was an opportunity to develop new ideas, like in a music lab. We were his mirrors. He would experiment new ideas, and we would repeat in a question-answer form through music, creating a conversation, a narrative. Is that not so similar to jazz improvisation?” It is no surprise then that the composer has adapted this style as a part of the composition process for the upcoming project, Tales Of The Bamboo Reed. “We plan to release the album next year, but it is currently a work in progress. The tour is an opportunity to build up the chemistry and tighten the sets as we go along,” he says. After performances in Delhi, Chandigarh and Kochi, they will arrive in Mumbai before the final performances in Bengaluru. Despite the number of stops, Barraud admits there won’t be enough time for a proper Mumbai darshan. “I would love to go and meet Guruji again. Sadly, we won’t have enough time. But that is the life of a musician on tour,” he concludes. On: November 27; 9 pm onwardsAt: Bonobo, Kenilworth Mall, Linking Road, Bandra West Take your pick from these off-beat French jazz classiques >> Gypsy Guitar by Angelo DeBarreLog on to: Spotify >> Paris 24H by Paris Jazz Big BandLog on to: Spotify, Apple iTunes >> Sous les Pommiers by Anne PaceoLog on to: Spotify, Apple iTunes >> Meet Quincy Jones by Les Double SixLog on to: Spotify, YouTube >> Cour Encore by Clara LucianiLog on to: Spotify >> Histoire de Melody Nelson by Serge GainsbourgLog on to: Spotify >> La Bellevilloise by The Pantheon Gypsy BandLog on to: YouTube
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25 November,2024 11:32 AM IST | Mumbai | The Guide TeamIt is in our postal addresses,” says the 34-year-old illustrator who goes by the pseudonym Bao, when we ask her where one might see the lines of caste in a city that prides itself on being a great equaliser. “When I mention Deonar or Mahul, there’s a palpable change in the tone of the conversation. These localities have historically been synonymous with lower class and Bahujan populations,” she explains. Jai Bhim Nagar features on the January panel as a timely reminder of the ongoing struggle From the 1971 inauguration of Dr BR Ambedkar’s cremation site, Chaityabhoomi in Dadar by daughter-in-law Meerabai Ambedkar, to the ongoing struggle for basic rights by the Dalit community in Powai’s Jai Bhim Nagar, the artist’s new calendar takes Mumbaikars on a walk through the landmarks of the anti-caste movement hidden amidst the evolving urban-scape. Dr BR Ambedkar and the Chaityabhoomi pillar feature in the April panel Bao’s journey begins from her home turf in Chembur, which was once a hub of migrant labourers who worked in its dumping grounds and the refineries. “I stepped out to talk to residents of all of these localities to unearth the oral histories. It wasn’t a surprise to me when I found that caste intersected with the class struggle. Even within lower-income slums, there are clear demarcations between upper-caste and Bahujan settlements. For them, the struggle for a dignified life is ongoing,” she shares. Bao On the southern tip of the city, Bao finds a similar story. While the Ambedkar Nagar slums behind the Backbay Bus Depot saw mass displacement during the communal riots of 1992 and 1993, residents of Geeta Nagar on the southern tip of Colaba rose in revolt in 1995 against eviction drives through the Geeta Nagar Rahivasi Sangh and Geeta Nagar Mahila Vikas Sangh. Bao reminds us that it would be remiss of us to not address the birthplace of the Dalit Panthers in the city. “Namdeo Dhasal, the literary legend who led the Panthers in the 1970s and ’80s found strength and solidarity in the streets across the BDD Chawl in Kamathipura. One of my artworks features a black panther leaping forward as an ode to Dhasal,” she adds. Talking about calendars, we ask the artist, who most recently started a moving (literally) anti-caste reading club that travels on Mumbai locals, how the year that is drawing to a close has been. “There have been slivers of hope and moments of disappointment,” she reveals. The artist recalls visiting the ongoing struggle between the residents of Jai Bhim Nagar in Powai and the authorities over a proposed resettlement. “It is a historically documented fact that when reclamation or redevelopment project starts taking shape, the marginalised communities are the first to take a hit. The hope comes from the fact that young, English-speaking youth are now actively documenting and working towards a brighter future,” she signs off. LOG ON TO @thebigfatbao (to pre-order) COST Rs 4,000
25 November,2024 09:25 AM IST | Mumbai | Devashish KambleIn a recent interview, filmmaker Kiran Rao shared a rare glimpse into what co-parenting her son Azad with Bollywood actor Aamir Khan has been like — describing the co-parenting process as ‘tricky’ due to her superstar ex-husband’s busy schedule, she mentioned doing most of the parenting when the couple was still married, with Khan becoming more involved only since their separation in 2021. Rao’s candid revelations struck a familiar chord with many parents, whether together or separated, across the country. Parent trap“Co-parenting has certain inherent challenges, regardless of whether the parents are separated or together. Some of the biggest challenges is the distribution of responsibilities — one parent may feel burdened with being assigned most child-related tasks, as Rao did during her marriage to Khan. This imbalance can lead to frustration if one parent is seen as the ‘primary parent’ while the other is more of an occasional participant. Over time, this can create resentment and diminish collaborative parenting,” points out Namrata Jain, a counselling psychologist. She adds that jealousy between parents and among siblings (if there are multiple children) can be another major concern. For instance, if one parent becomes the ‘fun’ or ‘permissive’ parent while the other enforces rules, a child might gravitate towards the less disciplinary parent. Namrata Jain and Dr Naazneen Ladak Similarly, co-parents may experience jealousy if one parent is perceived as having a closer or stronger bond with the child. “Traditional gender roles often complicate the co-parenting process, especially if societal norms dictate one parent [often the mother] to be the primary caregiver, and the other [often the father] to be the financial provider. These expectations may hamper fathers from developing equal caregiving roles, leaving them feeling less competent in parenting tasks. Mothers, in turn, might become reluctant to relinquish responsibilities or may feel overwhelmed by the load,” Jain continues, highlighting that even in modern societies, men may struggle to fully participate in caregiving, not because of a lack of willingness but due to societal stereotypes about masculinity and parenting. She notes that this equation often improves post separation, noting that Khan’s scenario isn’t an aberration but rather the norm. Childish concernsIf co-parenting causes constant fights or tension between partners, regardless of their martial scenario, it can harm the child’s sense of security, says Dr Naazneen Ladak, a psychiatrist and mental health expert. “Children can feel trapped between their parents or worry they must pick a side. Even if the parents can’t always get along, they must stay calm and work together for the child’s sake. The focus should always be on creating a safe and loving environment for the child,” she says. Dr Nahid Dave and Dr Samir Dalwai Jain lays down a few parameters as basic guidelines for all parents. . Prioritise communication: Clear and respectful communication about parenting goals, child-specific needs and expectations is essential. Avoid using the children as messengers between homes, and instead maintain a direct line of communication to resolve issues quickly. . Create a consistent routine: Consistency in routines, discipline and expectations across both homes is critical for the child’s sense of security. Contradicting each other’s rules can lead to confusion and manipulation attempts by the children. . Focus on the child’s well-being, not your feelings: Personal conflicts must take a backseat to the child’s emotional and mental needs. This means setting aside differences and creating an atmosphere where children can feel loved, safe, and free from the tension of parental conflicts. . Set boundaries with new partners: When new partners are involved, it’s crucial to have boundaries and clear communication around their role in the children’s lives to avoid confusion and feelings of instability. Dr Ladak notes that while grandparents can be a source of love, security and stability, especially during changes such as separation, their role should support the parents’ efforts, and not interfere. If grandparents intervene too much or contradict parenting decisions, it can confuse the child. Clear boundaries are essential to make sure grandparents contribute positively to the child’s well-being. At the same time, it’s important for everyone involved in the parenting process to not contradict or overrule any ground rules that have been laid down for the child — whether in relation to academics, curfews, extracurricular activities, disciplining or any other aspect that is important to the child’s development, says Dr Nahid Dave, a psychiatrist at Thought Matters. “Any deviations must be consented to by the parent who has primary custody of the child. It is important for the secondary parent to not overrule any established boundaries or parameters in the child’s presence. Even if you can’t be amicable with your separated partner, avoid speaking negatively about them to the child. Do not unload your emotional baggage on the child. Make sure this is also communicated to other family members as well,” she clarifies. Dr Samir Dalwai, a developmental paediatrician and spokesperson for the Indian Academy of Paediatrics, prefers to address co-parenting as a partnership, not just between the spouses but also between the parents and the children, the grandparents, as well as the other individuals who are assigned caregiving duties, including the staff of the household. “It takes a village to raise a child, and today’s nuclear family structures mean that the nature of this village is changing. Be mindful of all the links in this chain and the extent of their involvement in the caregiving process,” he says. A case for equality?While many parents are challenging established norms and are eager to divide responsibilities more equally, the experts agree that parenting doesn’t have to be perfectly equal to be effective. “What matters is that both parents are involved in meaningful ways. A parent who spends less time but is fully engaged and emotionally present can make just as much impact. The focus should always be on the child’s emotional and mental needs. It’s not about dividing time evenly — it’s about being there when it matters most,” says Dr Ladak. Jain adds that seeking a perfectly equal division of duties may be unrealistic as life circumstances and individual strengths naturally vary between parents. “One parent may excel at helping with academics while the other brings value through emotional support. Successful co-parenting doesn’t mean an exact split but rather a balanced involvement where both parents contribute to the child’s growth and happiness,” she signs off. Case Studies Meghna Ghodawat with her family Have your support systemFor entrepreneur Meghna Ghodawat, who is juggling raising two sons with her fledgling businesses, the key to successful co-parenting lies in acceptance and in having the right support systems. “In our family, my husband has always been the financial provider while I am involved in the children’s day-to-day routine. My husband spends time with them over the weekends and oversees their sports activities. My parents also play an important role in supporting me, through the journey. I think being clear about my own expectations and delegating certain duties to the staff and the children’s grandparents allows us to achieve that perfect balance,” she notes. Shivani Sharma with her son Taking accountabilityAS a single mother, I have realised that when a couple goes through a divorce or a separation, the child faces a lot of emotional distress. What the separated couple must now focus on is the child’s emotional stability and happiness. In many cases, a co-parenting arrangement may simply not work out,” says Shivani Sharma, a chefpreneur and founder of Gourmestan. “The parent who has been assigned primary custody must take responsibility to give the child a wholesome upbringing. In my case, I have been fortunate to be supported by my mother, with whom my son shares a very close bond. I also ensure that my son participates in several extracurricular activities to help him relieve stress and spend one-on-one time with him so that he can communicate his emotional needs,” she concludes.
25 November,2024 09:03 AM IST | Mumbai | Anindita PaulStyle Think outfits drenched in pink, black, or emerald green to channel a little magic. Stylist Disha Selarka shares how to adapt these looks to our wardrobes, “Incorporate the style elements and colours in your everyday dressing. Black, pink or green/emerald are colours that scream wicked,” she explains. Here’s her take on how to get the ‘Wicked’ look right. Shades of green can make a mark Silhouette shift: Selarka suggests embracing A-line silhouettes in dresses and skirts for a structured, flow-y look, with knee, midi or maxi-length hems offering a more polished vibe. For those looking to channel corporate chic, she suggests wearing a blazer to make a power suit look with the A-line skirts, to create a modern version of the character’s outfits. A structured top paired with a flow-y bottom enhances the body shape, “Having a balanced between structure and flow-y fabrics is important to balance out the yin and yang of the characters as well as your own personality,” she remarks. The iconic ruby slippers are a style statement Fabric flair: Softer and more feminine fabrics like sheer and lace are seen making their mark in the movie, offering a lightweight, breathable feel that ensures comfort. “No matter the colour preference, choose feminine fabrics, ruffles and frills,” explains Selarka. These materials can easily be infused with personal style, to create a bespoke look. Elevate your look: To reflect the colours and vibe of the Emerald City, “Take baby steps and try out the look by opting for emerald jewellery,” Selarka advises. Think emerald pendants, bracelets, earrings, or even simple rhinestone earrings for a classic Glinda touch. “Pick footwear that suits your personality, from Glinda’s pink pumps to Elphaba’s black lace-up boots, and let’s not forget, the infamous ruby slippers,” she adds. To complete the look, choose a practical yet stylish crossbody or satchel for an Elphaba touch. Disha Selarka Fit for a prince: Men can channel the charm of Fiyero with a modern twist on aristocratic attire. Selarka explains, “Opt for skinny or straight-fit pants, or beige chinos, and pair them with a waist-length cropped jacket to achieve that princely look.” The key is blending the classic elements of Fiyero’s royal look with contemporary styles for a modern take that still channels that princely charm. Wicked glam: Ensure your make-up complements the outfit, “It’s important to keep it minimal, feminine and go for nude pink lips [like Aditi Rao Hydari (left)],” she explains. Read Pic courtesy/Harpercollins Wicked: The Life and Times of the Wicked Witch of the West by Gregory Maguire: It is a prequel to The Wizard of Oz that explores Elphaba’s backstory. It reimagines familiar tales and characters through a fresh, complex lens. Loosely inspired by this tale, the 2003 Broadway musical is now being adapted into a highly anticipated film. Log on to: amazon.in Cost: Rs 1,609 Watch Why the Wicked movie will have 2 parts, everything we know so far: This video has you covered with a quick, all-in-one summary of the film’s key details with no need for endless scrolling. Log on to: YouTube Behind the Curtain: The History of Wicked Part 1 and 2: Learn about the behind-the-scenes journey from the yellow brick road to the Broadway stage with a series of videos that trace Wicked’s rise from early performances, to global sensation with insights from actors Lauren Harris and Ginna Claire Mason, who’ve portrayed Elphaba and Glinda respectively on the Broadway stage.Log on to: YouTube Listen BeWicked: Original Broadway Recording Deluxe editions: The original Wicked Broadway soundtrack, divided into discs, includes iconic songs like Popular and Defying Gravity, which showcase Stephen Schwartz’s remarkable work defining the musical’s depth and impact. Log on to: Spotify Wicked Movie original motion picture soundtrack: This is your chance to immerse yourself in the iconic music from the film, and experience the magic of Oz. Log on to: Spotify
23 November,2024 08:31 AM IST | Mumbai | Kanisha SoftaGhadiyal Godi Mumbai is laden with some of the most sophisticated, innovative and beautiful clock towers. Each clock has a story to tell. Many treasures are scattered and hidden across the urban-scape. They need to be conserved and rehabilitated to continue to serve the city as beacons of time and also as spaces that can be preserved and adaptively reused by people. Once such lost treasure lies in the Victoria and Prince Docks on P D’Mello Road, locally called Ghadiyal Godi. Erected in 1891, this clocktower is unique as it contained a ‘timeball’, a time-signalling device in maritime navigation used by navigators to check and set their chronometers. The timeball stopped functioning the day of the Bombay Dock Explosions in 1944. To restore and bring back to working order the ‘timeball’ would resurrect and celebrate its significance in Bombay maritime history. Restoration of the Malad stone and Basalt building from its dilapidated and neglected state to a museum space containing Mumbai maritime history would re-establish its role as a city landmark and the role it played in the development of the port city, and as a gateway to India. Nandini Somaya Sampat, principal architect-SNK (Somaya & Kalappa Consultants) Precincts Flora Fountain or Hutatma Chowk in Bombay, India by Bourne and Shephard,1880s. Pics Courtesy/Wikimedia Commons We cannot save the heritage of a city if we only look at individual buildings. Mumbai, like the best of heritage cities in the world, is a city of precincts. Each precinct is distinguished by the specific style of its architecture and its urban characteristics — the uniformity of its building lines, its footprint, the heights of the buildings and the floor heights. We look at precincts as loosely connected horizontals and therein, we see the urban harmonies. This makes it a very fragile ensemble, given the ravages of the ravenous real-estate monster. One building gone, and the entire precinct loses its character forever. Look at the building lines on the eastern side of the Flora Fountain Plaza, and you can see the beginning of the end. Marine Drive, despite its UNESCO World Heritage Site status, is one building away from disfigurement. Sometimes, one gets the feeling that there is no Heritage Oversight Committee in Mumbai. Mustansir Dalvi, architect, professor of architecture, poet Also Read: Bombay Rewind, Replay: Silent sentinels of World War I in the city Old Cinema Halls It’s essential to remember Mumbai’s status as the cinema capital of India. I’m especially nostalgic about its Art Deco theatres. Some of these have evolved into multiplexes, restaurants, or shopping centres to survive, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Fortunately, venues like the Royal Opera House, Eros, Liberty, and Regal have been restored and maintained. Capitol cinema in Fort; a view of Paradise cinema in Mahim. File Pics I recently visited Capitol cinema, and was struck by its current state, imagining its past splendour. Unfortunately, government regulations restrict its use for alternative purposes. Sadly, some old cinemas like Deepak Cinema (Matterden) in Lower Parel, and Paradise Cinema in Mahim had to bring their curtains down. Preserving these historical venues is crucial for maintaining Mumbai’s cinematic heritage. Another deserving monument is the Ghadiyal Godi Clock Tower, which unfortunately, stands in a state of neglect and disrepair. Restoring it would not only preserve our heritage but also celebrate our city’s rich maritime history. Brinda Miller, fine artist; Honorary chair-Kala Ghoda Association, Honorary festival director -Kala Ghoda Arts Festival Dadar TT Circle and Sion Circle Mumbai’s earliest planned suburbs boast three major roundabouts, the Dadar TT circle, King’s Circle and Sion Circle. These junctions are defining landmarks and buzzing public plazas, boasting wide footpaths lined with shops and restaurants. King’s Circle. Pic Courtesy/Jehangir Sorabjee, Above Bombay The Reinforced Concrete Cement (RCC)-framed buildings defining the edges of each of these junctions are of identical design, with their heights and facades regulated by the Bombay City Improvement Trust, thus lending a distinct character and massing to each junction. As a significant urban design exercise in the 1930s, these circles serve as crucial landmarks even today. Over time, these buildings have been subject to insensitive and indiscriminate interventions, which have disrupted the sense of order in the buildings surrounding each of these junctions, and have diluted their character, particularly at King’s Circle and Sion Circle. These three roundabouts could be taken up for sensitive regeneration to re-establish their suburban pre-eminence. In contrast, Horniman Circle, which was a similar urban design exercise from an earlier historical period, sees its 19th Century buildings well preserved today. Mumbai’s modern (20th Century) heritage deserves the same level of sensitivity. Atul Kumar, founder-Art Deco Mumbai Watson’s Hotel The façade of Watson’s Hotel Following the listing of the Victorian Gothic, Oval Maidan and Art Deco precinct as a UNESCO World Heritage Site, there is one structure which stands just behind the Victorian Gothic ensemble desperately in need of restoration: the former Watson’s Hotel (Esplanade Mansion). It was listed with a high grade as far back as 1995 for its uniqueness as India’s first cast-iron structure. Amazingly, the columns and beams were shipped in from the UK, and the building was more or less assembled as you would a prefabricated structure today. In its time, it was also not only elegant but patronised as the finest hotel in Bombay until it was eclipsed by the newly-built Taj Mahal Hotel. Sadly, the building has been misused, abused and fallen into disrepair. Bringing it back to life is not only urgent but would add another jewel to the crown of the Victorian Gothic ensemble, which it adjoins. Cyrus Guzder, entrepreneur, culture and arts philanthropist
23 November,2024 08:22 AM IST | Mumbai | Fiona FernandezWe walk into the buzzing Jehangir Nicholson Art Foundation (JNAF). It is the preview of her new exhibition, and Dayanita Singh is already at the centre of the conversation. We see veteran journalist and editor P Sainath in an earnest discussion with her. Around them, multiple photographs adorn the gallery walls with an aesthetic geometry. They are part of Singh’s touring exhibition that opened with Photo Lies in Mumbai on November 21. The exhibition draws from her previous work, Dancing with My Camera that toured Europe with the Frith Street Gallery, London, as well as bringing some new unseen works to India for the first time, Singh reveals. “Since this is a tour, I had to think of a curation to suit every venue. Puja [Vaish] and I settled on this concept around architecture and deception,” she explains. The deception is part of Singh’s questioning of photography as an accepted evidence of truth. An exhibit titled Make Space “Photography, even in documentaries, is deception. I was just having that same debate with Sainath, and he opined that this could be true of photography of power, but not protest,” she reveals. Singh’s non-conforming idea, to this writer, is not dissimilar to the surrealist painter Rene Magritte’s famed Treachery of Images. On being told, she laughs, “You are not entirely wrong. There are 2,000 years of architecture in these images from Pompeii and Ellora, to architects Le Corbusier and Rahul Mehrotra. I have interspersed geography and time. Each of these places [in the photographs] are different in time and geography. The only place they can exist in is here,” she remarks. Many of the montages emerge from Singh’s long nurtured photographic archives of architectural spaces. Places such as Carlos Scarpa’s Brion cemetery blend into Martand Khosla’s Delhi residence; Geoffrey Bawa’s structures amalgamated seamlessly into a photograph of Álvaro Siza’s works. At one point, photographs of Studio Mumbai and the Ellora Caves are cut into each other with a play of light that makes it difficult to point out the oddities. A patron views the Bawa Rocks pillar The artist admits that she worked instinctively when creating these analogue cut-out combinations; “…like a DJ.” Echoing the sentiment in her walkthrough of the exhibition, Singh told visitors, “I love it when my architect friends look at a photograph and say, “Ahh Bawa,” and I get to tell them “Look again.” This show is about slowing down, looking carefully; otherwise you miss the fact that there are pieces of the images moving back and forth.” There is durability in the visions of stone structures in black and white, against the wooden teak frames that interrupt the flow of visitors walking through the gallery. “The frames are shaped by our perception of photographs. These are square frames, and these are 35mm frames,” she points out. There are also pillars of three architects — the Corbu pillar, Bawa Rocks and BV Stairs. Bombay Cinema House Museums (foreground) and Archiviologies Each wall brings out a different aspect. One of the walls hosts painted over images of photographs giving them a ghostly appearance. This novelty is also the reason she chose the venues, including JNAF. Singh shares, “One cannot always rely on commercial galleries. It is not their role to question norms of photography, or architecture. We need spaces that allow such questions or disruptions of order.” The tour will continue across India till April with stops in Jaipur, Kolkata, Ahmedabad and Vadodara. For now, Mumbaikars can walk in and admire the aesthetic beauty between truth and deception. Till February 23; 10.15 am to 6 pmAt JNAF, second floor, Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj Vastu Sangrahalaya, Fort.
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