'My guy and I keep fighting all the time...'

Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I'm 29 and have been in a relationship for about two years. Five months ago, we moved in together. Living in has made things ugly between us as my guy and I end up fighting all the time. Often it is for petty reasons. Whether it's the pressure of paying rent/bills, cleaning, cooking and answering the doorbell. I'm not sure whether it was right to move in. I often feel I was better off on my own. My guy suggested that I live in with him.
- Myra


Illustration/Amit Bandre

Dear Myra,
Daily living and paying bills is putting a pressure on your relationship. All this while you would meet him only for a few hours somewhere outside, but being together is taking a toll. As you are together all the time, you are becoming a hindrance to each other. You two need to sit down and divide the responsibilities equally. If you continue squabbling it will spell the end of the relationship. So work out a plan and let peace prevail.

Dear Diana,
I'm 37 and my husband is 39. We've been married for 12 years. We have one child. I have been told by a relative that he's been having an affair. I wish I can catch him redhanded. I don't want our kid to suffer because of his actions. What should I do? I am a housewife. He does not display any change in behaviour, but the relative who told me says that he has spotted my hubby with a woman more than once and it is the same woman.
- Sharmita

Dear Sharmita,
First of all this relative might be playing mischief. He may have an axe to grind and is filling your ears with his idle talk. What if this woman is an office colleague? What if he was with her on some office work? Or perhaps she is an acquaintance? Instead of speculating, find out the truth from him.